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June 21, 2011

Going Home, Excerpt: Dance of the Atoms (6/II)

Chapter 6 ~ Dance of the Atoms

     Relationships can seem pretty complicated on the surface, Gran said, but they’re really quite simple if you step back a bit. Like everything else, they follow patterns, circling around our basic core issues.

     It’s quantum physics at the atomic level – like attracts like, Gran said. We’re all just little bundles of energy, some bigger, some smaller, some purple, some yellow. These bundles interact like all other forms of energy, being attracted to or repelled from each other like the little dog magnets on her refrigerator door.

     Take the dating scene: Gran said that when an atom is missing an electron and becomes an Ion – notice the “I” – it goes off on a quest to complete itself.[i] Gran’s imitation of all those little lovesick atoms dancing around each other made us both laugh. Pulled toward some vibrations and ricocheted away from others, we don’t know what’s going on, but we’re not about to give up! Gran said we almost can’t, even if we want to – not until we wake up – that’s just how energy works on this level.

     Balanced atoms, on the other hand, with an equal number of protons and electrons, are basically neutral. They aren’t compelled to do this dance, although they can choose to if they like the song. Plus, they know they can create something greater than themselves by partnering up with others of like mind. These are the people who’ve gotten their luggage all cleaned out and packed just right for their journey. They’ve learned to meet their own needs, to stand on their own two feet. They’ve learned to love and care for themselves, and can offer this now in a relationship. They can truly love others, in ways that atoms with missing pieces just aren’t capable of. After all, we can’t give away something we don’t even have.

     This doesn’t just apply to romance, Gran said. It applies to everyone and everything in our lives, including our friends and the places we seek out for work and play. We’re drawn to vibrations that match our own, with little wonder that these scenes may shift to reflect the changes within as we grow and develop and become who we really are.

     Each time we’d talk about this I’d beg Gran to tell me what color my molecules were, and she’d laugh and ask me what color I thought I was. I’d repeat the question, never content with her favorite non-answer, ‘til finally she’d heave a big sigh, arch one lady-like eyebrow, and say, “Mikey, we’ve discussed this ’til I’m blue in the face.” And then she’d just laugh…

     I always had a feeling she wasn’t telling me everything, but then again, that’s just how Gran was. Sometimes she said more with her eyebrows than she said with words. Besides, she probably could have told me straight to my face and I wouldn’t have heard her anyway, if I wasn’t ready for it.

     Either way, I think I learned more science sitting on that front porch than in all my years of schooling put together. Gran may not have been a physicist, but she sure knew her atoms.


[i] These missing electrons have a lot of different causes – that’s what we’ve been working on with all our prepping and packing

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  1. Dear Mary! It’s all about chemistry and physics of relationships and it’s amazing .I am thrilled by your Granny’s thoughts and words but even more I am excited by your great love and understanding and by the style and every word of your wonderful story.Thank you so much for giving us these enjoable moments when we read your stories.

    Comment by Olga Osadchuk — June 21, 2011 @ 12:41 pm | Reply

    • Thank you, Miz Olga – so glad you enjoyed it. Wouldn’t it be nice to share some rocking-chair time on Gran’s front porch together? {smile}

      Comment by frontporchrambles — June 21, 2011 @ 2:27 pm | Reply

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